Rachel M. Harrison
You Didn’t Fall for Him — Your Wound Did
You didn't fall in love with the wrong person by accident. Your nervous system brought you there. The attraction felt real — because it was. But it wasn't love pulling you in. It was familiarity. It was the wound.
About the Book
Subtitle: Why You Choose Pain, How to Break the Pattern Tag: Trauma · Relationships Cover class: c-trauma Kindle ASIN: B0GX2TPS35 / $9.99 Paperback ASIN: B0H2Z79W7P / $15.99
From the Pages
You didn't fall in love with him. You fell in love with the version of him your wound needed to exist.
Chapter 1The intensity you felt wasn't proof of connection. It was proof of recognition — your nervous system saying: I know this feeling.
Chapter 3You can love someone deeply and still know they are not safe for you. Those two things can be true at the same time.
Chapter 5The wound chose him. Now it's your turn to choose yourself.
EpilogueThis Book Is For You If…
You keep ending up in the same relationship
Different person, same dynamic. Same hope, same hurt. Same cycle you can't seem to break no matter how hard you try.
You felt something "too intense" too fast
And it felt like fate. Like finally. But it burned out — or burned you. This book explains why that intensity was a signal, not a sign.
You knew something was wrong but stayed anyway
Not because you were weak. Because your nervous system was doing exactly what it was conditioned to do.
You're ready to choose differently
Not just avoid the wrong ones — but learn to recognize, trust, and receive love that is genuinely safe. That work starts here.
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Understand the wound.
Break the pattern.
Choose what you deserve.
This book doesn't just explain what happened — it gives you a framework for what comes next.
Rachel M. Harrison
Trauma-Informed Coach · Author · Advocate
Rachel M. Harrison is a trauma-informed coach, author, journalist, and ordained minister whose work sits at the intersection of healing, identity, and story. She has published eleven books spanning memoir, trauma healing, leadership, personal development, and children’s literature.
She has lived what she teaches. Her books are proof of that.
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